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Workaholism and Burn Out © 2008

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In western culture it is easy to get caught up in the fast paced hype of current trends. It seems that there is not enough time to do that which we set out to do. Our tasks lists are longer than our meals with our families. Sitting down to enjoy our families or nurture ourselves is becoming a thing of the past. Unless we stop, look, and listen to how we are really doing or feeling deep inside. I am a single mother of a teenager and I know from firsthand how to be an over responsible workaholic. Being a single mom puts me in a position of being the super woman. I have to cook, clean, organize, pay bills, go to work, take care of my daughter, be the absent father, among other things I am suppose to be or do because of my position of being a single parent. I dove into my career as an entrepreneur twelve years ago. I am in the service oriented business. My passion was to meet the needs of my clients and for twelve years I did exactly that. What I did not plan on was over working led me to burn out. I was forced to work so that I can provide and live a good life for my daughter. I thought that money was easier if I worked hard and was never home. I even worked two other jobs to make ends meet. What I found out is that my body can only do that for so long and then I got some sort of illness. This is when depression set in for me and it seems to be the highest emotional illness among single parents. I wanted to be the tough mom and the one who could “do it all” and prove to the world that I can do anything! Well, that was all wrong. The workaholic and burnout came together and I crashed. I hated my every day life, and I hated going to work, and I hated what I use to love to do. Personally and professionally I thought I had it made. Wrong again. My focus was on meeting the needs of my clients and I neglected myself and everyone else around me, including my daughter. She did not deserve that but I felt I had no choice in the matter. we all have choices and I finally took a long look at what I had been doing with my life and how it affected the lives of those around me. Yes, I would have done things differently, but I guess it was my time to learn that over working and burnout became a blessing. Why was it a sign of a blessing? Well, once I realized that I was an over doer, I took that break I needed and realized I am a better person for having gone through all what I did. I want to help others who work too much and I want them to get the help they need before they feel guilty or regret some of the things I did. My motto: “Live with No Regrets”. My advice to avoid burnout is to read articles now before it happens. Look for the signs written. If you have lost your lust for life and you are negative every day, get some help. Depression either has set in or you need to get help for your depressed thoughts. When you are depressed it affects others even if you do not think it does. My only wish is that whether you are a single parent or not, over working and burnout usually go hand in hand please do not wait until its too late to get the help you need. Stop, look, and listen to the real you on the inside. Above all remember there is a higher power that cares enough about you that, “this too shall pass.”



Today I used a tiny spatula to scoop out peanut butter to place on my sandwich, it was so easy.

I mix lemon grass essential oil with Olive Oil in a tiny spray bottle and it kills bugs on contact, rids mosquitoes and all sorts of bugs.

Gardening Rule: When weeding, the best way to make sure you are removing a weed and not a valuable plant is to pull on it. If it comes out of the ground easily, it is a valuable plant.

The easiest way to find something lost around the house is to buy a replacement.

Never take life seriously. Nobody gets out alive anyway.

Give a person a fish and you feed them for a day; teach that person to use the Internet and they won’t bother you for weeks.

Why one careless match can can start a forest fire, but it takes a whole box to start a campfire?

MotivateUs with Motivating Moments

MotivateUs with Motivating Moments.

Guy Finley Lessons


Date   Key Lesson
04/25/2010   Resisting any unwanted character within us

 increases the conflict

 we feel over it,

 but it also speeds up any

subsequent negative

 reactions we have to its

 dark presence.

In other words, the more

we don’t

want to feel something

the more

accelerated becomes

 our suffering over it!

04/23/2010   All violence towards others,

 or any attack upon oneself,

 is nothing more than one’s

 own unconscious

 imperfection trying, in vain, to keep

 itself out of sight.


04/21/2010   Resistance is the favorite

food of the enemy of freedom.

04/18/2010   Love doesn’t resist or resent

 anything;it knows and

 sees the secret unity in

 all it beholds.  

Light doesn’t fear shadows;

it gently transforms

them into open space.

04/16/2010   True kindness — the flowering

 of patience, compassion,

and the quiet, but unshakable

 strength for which

we all aspire — is only found

 growing along that uphill

 path called “humility.”


04/14/2010   When all is well with us, we

openourselves up to the

words of the wise, welcoming their

 counsel; but

whenever some painful trial

comes knocking at

 our door — bringing with it

 the possibility of real-time

wisdom that nothing else can

provide — we slam shut

the door of our heart and mind,

wanting no words with it!

04/11/2010   If you listen carefully, quietly,you’ll hear the voiceof the moment tell you that all is

 well and always will be.

04/09/2010   Wise persistence always pays the

 one who serves it at least once,

but usually twice. The first payoff

 — and the

 most valuable — is the realization

that “walls” are

 immaterial apart from the

 resistance that lends them

 their temporary substance.

The second payment

 comes on the other side of the “wall”…


achievement proves the value of

sustained effort.


04/07/2010   Any thought that “promises”

to rescue you, or to

 otherwise deliver you to

 some new

 delight deceives

you twice. First, that it has the

power to lift you above

what’s dragging you down;

and secondly,

 more significantly, that

there is a “you” that

needs being saved from some

 dire straight, or that

 can be actually be enlarged by

 changing circumstance.

04/04/2010   Rebirth is a return; it is the Divine

 answer to acall seeded into

creation for the soul to

return home to its uncreated


04/02/2010   Allowing the rushed state of another

 person to pushyou into an anxious

state of mind… is like letting thehorse

you’re about to ride convince

you to wear the saddle!


03/31/2010   Whatever justifies the

unconscious sufferinginherent

 in anger, blame, or bitterness is, 

itself, a part of – in league with –

 these same

 negative states. And that’s 

what we have to see

if we ever want to be free of

whatever it is (within us)

that has “good reasons” for

tearing itself apart.

03/28/2010   Part 1:If putting yourself first

 had any real power to grant

you true liberty – a way

to make you content,

then – for all you’ve given to

yourself – shouldn’t

you be happy and free by now?

Part 2:

Asking God to help you —

 without first doing the

 interior work of seeing and

admitting the truth of

yourself to yourself — is like

sending someone else

 to church or temple for you

 to pray for your transfiguration.

03/26/2010   Waiting on others to approve a

change you know you must

make in your own life — an action you

must take that will likely lessen

 your dependency

 upon them, and perhaps drive

 them to make

 changes in their habitual choices

 — is like hoping

 that a snowman looks forward

to a spring thaw.


03/24/2010   There is only one reason why

 any of us ever do wrong to another,

 blame someone else for our


to be thankful for what we have, or go

through our

 entire day without remembering

 our God…and

that’s because we have forgotten –

 once again —

our own interior wretchedness.

03/21/2010   Longing to be whole – to be

one withwhat is holy –

 is like standing in the surf as it washes the

 shoreline and wishing that you could

 be nearer to the ocean.


03/19/2010   Running from yourself is the

 fastestway to go nowhere!      

03/17/2010   Part 1:All forms of momentum are

mindless,but never more so

than when a mind– blinded by desire – runs after what it

 wants without any

awareness of its action.

Part 2:

Desire is in bondage to itself, but the

Spirit of man is indomitable! Awaken

the sleeping soul to its unseen captivity,

 and nothing in the world can stop its revolt

and ultimate liberation.

03/14/2010   Part 1:It is an unthinkable spiritual

paradox thatbefore one can ever

 hope to be dressed forthe marriage

 divine, one must first see

how unsuited he or she is to know such a Love.  

Part 2:

Desires serve the awakening one,

 while one who sleeps…serves desire.

03/12/2010   Coming to any negative conclusion

 is like getting caught in a sudden 

rainstorm… and then jumping into a

river to keep

your shoes from getting wet.


Date   Key Lesson
03/10/2010   There are times when there’s more

 to be gained from

losing a fight, than there is in winning it.

Show me someone who only enters into

 battles he’s sure can be won, and I will

show you that person who has all but

forsaken the possibility of ever knowing

 his own soul.

03/07/2010   The suffering inherent in negative

 statesis the dark creation of a level of

 self thatbelieves its conflict with life can be

 reconciled through resistance.

03/05/2010   Stormy thoughts and feelings can no

 moreovercome your quiet awareness

 of themthan do raindrops have the power to wash


 the sky through which they pour.


03/03/2010   It is sheer fantasy to think that

your “tomorrow” can be any different –

better or brighter thantoday – as long as

 all you do is fantasize about it.

Real self-change requires the conscious

sacrifice of the self whose hopes lie in

things dreamed.

02/28/2010   Until we learn to make peace with our

 own sense of emptiness, we will never know

 the true nature of fulfillment.

02/26/2010   With regards to suffering, our pain

hurts alittle less whenever we can

 remember this strange (but true) spiritual fact:

 many of God’s greatest gifts seem, at first,

 unbearable to receive.


02/24/2010   Being fully present to oneself is freedom

 from the tyranny of the past and fearof the future.


02/21/2010   It is a fool and his pride that relishesin

any perfection that “proves” its

value by punishing him for his


02/19/2010   The only truly worthwhile “accomplishment” –

– the one action that stands the test ofpassing time —

is the interior work we do that

allows God to accomplish His task in our soul.


02/18/2010   The vast majority of people miss out

onmost of their lives in their ceaseless

rushnot to miss out on what they’ve imagined l

ife has to offer…once they become who

 they’ve imagined they should be.

02/14/2010   Here’s the real spiritual reason you

should doonly one thing at a time –

whether putting on a pair of socks,

 picking up a pencil, or pouring

yourself a cup of tea: The only way it’s possible

 to do more than one thing at a time is to have

 surrendered your attention to a divided nature

that believes just getting things done

 is the same as doing things well.


02/12/2010   The seeds of what will be are planted 

in the here and now, a fact of life that

 guaranteesone thing: unless we do the inner work to be

 aware of ourselves in the present moment…

yesterday will be our tomorrow.


02/10/2010   Blame is the dark effect of denial,

of refusing torecognize that when

it comes to anyone oranything

that sets you off…seer and

 the seen are one and the same.


02/07/2010   Arrogance, fear, in fact all dark

negativestates only rule and

stain our lives as they do because of how

 distanced we’ve become

 from the immense and divine

 mystery of our own True Nature.

02/05/2010   Any form of measuring yourself by 

the unkind action of another towards

you is like looking into a badly fractured

 mirror… and then blaming yourself

 for the shattered image you see therein.


02/03/2010   Preparation, hard work, is part of perfecting

whatever you’ve imagined you

want to attain in this world. But there is a world

beyond anything we can imagine;

 (it is) an intelligent presence, a “place” of

powers and principles whose self-obliterating

touch can no more be prepared for than can a

 mountain pine prepare for a lighting bolt.

..or a newly opened spring flower its first

 taste of the morning sun.

01/31/2010   The presence of the Master is useless 

without one’s awareness of the same.      

01/29/2010   Excellence, wherever… and within

whomever you may find it, is always 

a result of effort… never by accident.


01/27/2010   All negative emotions, but especially

anger, are the offspring of one dark

state…a frustrated desire that would rather

set fire to the object, person, or condition

seen as being at fault, than turn around

and see itself for what it is in reality:

 the unseen source of its own suffering.

01/24/2010   It’s widely believed that psychological

 pain is a natural response to

 encountering anunwanted

 moment, but the true –

and secret – source of this pain is an

 unseen conflict inherent in our present

level of consciousness itself; the truth is

that the “self” that suffers this pain is

revealed by unwanted conditions –

 not created by them.



Date   Key Lesson
01/22/2010   Real abundance has very

 little to do with being able to

 give ourselves whateverwe want,

but rather with being free

of the part of us that’s forever wanting

 something better and new in order to

 feel new and better about itself.


01/20/2010   The truth of our oneness with life only

 starts to become real for us as we

 awaken to see that in hurting others; we have also

 hurt ourselves and–that whenever

 we hurt ourselves–others suffer.

01/17/2010   Perhaps the most deceptive of all th

e false gods is the one who

 condemnsyou for being you.

01/15/2010   Discover the unseen relationship 

between always being in a rush…

and how important it makes you feel to always

be going somewhere in a hurry…

and you’ve made first contact with

the power you need to slow down

and take command of your own life.


01/13/2010   The true spiritual battle isn’t with life,

 but in our work to stay in the midst of

 it when other parts of us want to run away.

01/10/2010   The comparative mind can’t understand

that perfection is not in time, but

 rather is the action of what is Timeless upon

time and all of its creations.

01/08/2010   There is only one thing that you don’

thave to imagine or struggle to keep 

alive — and that is what you authentically love.


01/06/2010   The key to the kingdom of heavenis

 never farther away from us thanwhat

 each present moment reveals to us;

for in truth “purity of heart” is inseparable

from our willingness to see that things are

the way they are because of the way we are.

01/03/2010   A stone set into motion, rolling down a hill,

 goes only where gravity and accident allow.

The same law holds true for any sense of “self”

set off by a mechanical reaction;

 momentum carries it along until it

crashes into someone or something

that it then blames for being in the way.

01/01/2010   Any mental or emotional crisis in our life

is evidence of an “account past due.” 

Understood properly, such pain reveals

where we are holding on to parts of ourselves

that cost us more to maintain than

 they are worth.


12/30/2009   Feeling sorry for yourself is not an action…

anymore than reliving some old regret 

has the power to change your present

 nature. Struggle with yourself; reaching

 takes disturbing the one who rests; yet,

 as surely as a seedling breaks out of her

earthly tomb, so will you realize the

world above you…once you commit

 to do the interior work needed

 to attain it.

12/27/2009   In the grand scheme of things,everything

that God gives you– for its

darkness or light, pleasure or pain

– is so that comes the day when,

within you, is awakened the wisdom

and will to give it all back to Him.


12/25/2009   In this High Holiday Season, so

fullof self-created gratification,

 we shouldnever forget that hidden in the shadow

 of all passing pleasures dwells their

 unseen opposite, some form of sorrow

that — sooner or later — must visit the

 unwary soul. Yet… for our striving to

remember this inescapable fact of life,

born in us is this bright new

understanding: lasting joy is found

 only in the realization of our

True Self.


12/23/2009   Yours is the power to put the fear of

 the future behind you, but only as you

 are willing to see that unless

 you do the interior work to awaken

now…your past awaits

you just ahead.

12/20/2009   Our greatest power – as it turns out —

isn’t the ability to imaginea limitless life,

 but rather to become

 aware of the fact that all dreams are

part of the finite world.

12/18/2009   Real life can no more act to pull us down

than does the rising sun burden the spring

 flowers that wait to bathe in its nourishing light.      

12/16/2009   To be consciously kind has its cost,

and the principle coin with which

this payment is made is…the sacrifice of self.

12/13/2009   It’s impossible to be concerned

with how others see you…and be

 true to yourself at the same time.


12/11/2009   No one is less interesting than someonewho

 thinks nothing could be more

 fascinating than telling you all

 about himself.


12/09/2009   Whenever you try to protect yourself

 from any form of fear, it is only fear

 that you protect. Only fear can

 make you into what you don’t want to be.

A challenge: Dream a dream so big only God can fulfil it @ 2010

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Dreams are not merely the nightly thoughts you experience as the brain sorts out the day’s events. They are the goals and visions that fire your heart and saturate your soul with joy at the very thought of them. They are those continuing visions of what you want your life to be at its highest level of fulfilment–what you want to do, how you want to do it, what kind of person you want to become in the process.

Your destiny and reason for living are wrapped up tightly in your dreams and desires, like the genetic information inside a seed. That dream in your heart contains your spiritual “DNA,” the very blueprint for who you are. Your dream is that idea, that vision for your life that burns inside of you–something you can’t ignore for long. It keeps coming back to your mind because it is part of who you are; it will never leave you alone.

A dream doesn’t drive you; it draws you. It is like a big magnet that pulls you toward itself. I don’t believe that there is a man or woman without a dream, because God designed every member of the human race to have dreams. Without a dream, a person will be frustrated in the present and will miss his or her future.

Your dream did not even originate with you. It resides within you, but God put it there. He is the source of your dream. When people dream without God, they find it hollow and unsatisfying. Every person must come to Jesus for his or her dream to make sense. In fact, without Jesus, you might follow a dream for your life that God never put in your heart.

Not every dream is from God. There is such a thing as godless dreams. But when your dream is God’s dream, it’s unstoppable.

Jesus said that apart from Him we can’t do anything and that all our dreams will be frustrated. The power, energy and creativity needed to fulfil our dreams must flow from Jesus.

The most common and most crucial question is, “How do I know which dreams in my heart are from God?” Here is the answer. You will know it’s God’s dream if:

1. It is bigger than you.
2. You can’t let it go.
3. You would be willing to give everything for it.
4. It will last forever.
5. It meets a need nobody else has met.
6. It brings glory to God.

Let’s unpack each of these. First, any dream God put in your heart will be much bigger than you. Most children start out with big dreams of being a major league baseball player or the first woman president of the United States. But people and circumstances whittle those dreams down to size. We reach adulthood, and we voluntarily trim our dreams to manageable proportions so we won’t be disappointed.

That’s the opposite of what we should do. We should set higher goals, not lower ones. God is the author of bigness, not smallness. We may not reach the highest dream, but we will go a lot farther by aiming high than aiming low.

The first test you can apply to your dream is: “Is it too big for me to fulfil without God’s help?” If you can do it without His help, you are not dreaming big enough. If it’s much bigger than you, you are on the right track. The Bible promises that all things are possible with God. Is your dream impossible enough? Does it go beyond you enough to qualify for God’s help? Your dream should be so big that it takes your breath away, makes you temporarily weak in the knees, and makes you cry out to God for help and guidance.

Next, are you able to let this dream go, or does it keep bugging you? A God-given dream is a bothersome thing: it won’t leave you alone! It keeps bobbing to the surface of your heart, clamouring for your mind’s attention. If that’s how your dream behaves, then it is probably from God. You also know it’s a God-given dream if you are willing to devote every ounce of energy and every minute of your days to it. A dream inspires devotion like the devotion a parent has for a child: you would give your very life just to see it grow and find fulfilment.

Will your dream last forever? Many people pursue dreams built on things that will fade away. They dream of fame, but fame never lasts. Others build dreams on wealth, health or power, but none of these last more than a few decades at most. A dream cannot be built on ego. It cannot be built on tradition–because the company expects it or your family expects it. None of these foundations will support your dream.

You must build your dreams on something that will last. Only two things in the entire world will last forever: truth and people. Heaven and earth will pass away, but God’s Word will never pass away. You have to build your dream on that never-changing foundation.

The second thing that lasts forever is people. God made human beings to last forever. Jesus came to seek and save that which was lost, to die for people. That’s how we should spend our lives, too. If God Himself thought people were worth dying for, shouldn’t we follow His example? In fact, the only way to minister to God is to minister to people, as He said, “When you’ve done it to the least of them, you’ve done it to Me” (see Matt. 25:40).

Your dream must be built on human need. Will it help people? Improve lives? Alleviate human suffering? Does it fill a need nobody else is filling? If so, you can be sure that dream is from God. The secret to happiness in life is pouring into other people, giving without expecting anything in return.

Finally, your dream should bring glory to God. The most horrible thing in life is to realize you have wasted months, years or decades following the wrong dream. Life is too precious to fritter away by building on a crumbling foundation. Many people lose their lives, not by dying, but by squandering their time.