Set boundaries. Many of us get ill because we let everyone into our personal space, controlling us and advising us, or else we are doing everything for them, all the while ignoring ourselves. If someone thinks they know what is best for you, even if he is “smarter” than you or more powerful, you can still refuse their unsolicited suggestions and do it your way. Just say “thanks but no thanks” and figure it out for yourself. Another way we let people in our personal space is feeling sorry for them and “matching them”. You can help best by being neutral and being yourself! You do not have to take on their pain to help them heal. Boundary setting is one of the most healthful things you can do for yourself. Decide what is acceptable for you to do and what is not, and then stick to your mandate. It is not uncaring to set boundaries. What is healthful for you is ultimately healthful for everyone else, too!